Training Schedule
In a conversation with a dom friend he asked me what I thought I need to learn to be a better sub. One thing led to another, and the topic moved to chastity and orgasm denial. I said that I didn’t have much experience with either, aside from a self-enforced experiment almost ten years ago. He suggested that as part of my own currently-single-training-regime I might limit myself to one orgasm per week, with a reward or punishment depending on success or failure. He suggested the orgasm be at the same scheduled time every week.
Today marks 7 days since my last orgasm. I’ve decided that Sunday is a good day, probably Sunday afternoon before dinner. That way it isn’t associated with waking up or going to sleep, but is a release of tension before the beginning of the work week. I’m not sure on any specific rewards or punishments yet, but I’ll consider that as the experiment goes along. Prior to my chat with my dom friend I was already thinking about exploring celibacy / chastity as a spiritual practice, specifically cutting back on orgasms and limiting or cutting out porn. Combining a spiritual practice with my interest in D/s makes sense.
We’ll see how long I can last going a week between orgasms without outside encouragement.
I heartily approve! (sadly, that’s about the extent of the “outside encouragement” I can offer.) I like your idea about combining spiritual practice with D/s — although to the extent that I’m interested in that sort of mystical “spiritual technology” (as the author of a book I recently read calls it) I prefer the more hedonistic/ecstatic approach . . . . [perhaps an intellectual/spiritual framework for the difference between Doms and subs?] . . .but I nonetheless think it’s a nice idea.
As far as rewards and punishments go — maybe I’m not as imaginative as I think, but punishments that aren’t enforced by an outside power just have never seemed fruitful to me. I mean, you have to rely on the same person who couldn’t go a week without an orgasm to follow through with the punishment. Within the context of singleness, my stance would be that the conscious effort is more important than the punishments and rewards.
8 September 2011 at 1:15 am
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